My first official post on WordPress. Took me long enough.
No it’s not a story.
Some of you will be offended (I recommend Sprite)
Some of you will be amused.
When you’re done with all of that, perhaps you can set aside all that emotion and reason with me? Perhaps?
I have never laid claim to complete sanity of mind (My very first blog post attests to this: Welcome To My Very Own Madness.).
Come. Let’s talk for a bit. Not asking you to agree. Hell, I’m not even sure I agree with me. But just think; push the boundaries of that box a little.
Sometime in January (Or February, I forget which exactly) I was talking with a friend of mine who’s been trying to get in my pants for as long as I remember (Some guys are tireless sha. If you’re reading this :*) and he asked me a question I didn’t have an answer to or an opinion about which was strange because I pretty much have an opinion on almost everything. We were talking about fidelity in marriage and relationships and he asked me this, “Since men and women are so different, does it make sense that we are held to the same standards?”
Hold off with the stones first and hear me out will you?
My conditioned mind wanted to start reeling off reasons as to why it made sense but my logical/analytical mind did not let me. I told him that I didn’t have an answer for him, that I’d like to sit on it for a bit and then get back to him.
Since then I’ve been ruminating on it and I’ve decided to throw it out here.
What do you think?
Men are mostly physical. Women are emotional. So maybe, just maybe in a relationship it’s okay if the guy ‘strays’ once in a while? It’s naturally easier for us women to remain faithful so maybe it’s not fair to ask the guys to be completely faithful as well since it doesn’t come so easily to them?
Since men have better spatial ability and therefore make better drivers, perhaps in a car accident involving two cars, one driven by a man and the other a woman, the man should be held more responsible? He is after all supposedly a better driver by nature.
Just the other day, my aunt made a remark that she thinks God holds women more responsible (or punishes them more) for adultery. That is, if a husband and wife both cheat, the woman gets punished more. While there is no specific biblical reference that proves this, the case of the adulterous woman whom Jesus stopped the crowd from stoning comes to mind. Where were the guys she had supposedly slept with? Why was she the one being brought out for stoning? Perhaps she was being held to a higher standard by the people?
Perhaps when convicted of a crime, the sex of the offender should be taken into account before sentencing? Since different sexes are susceptible to certain crimes?
Please note that I’m not arguing inequality here (card carrying feminists and chauvinists run along now, no cause here). I’m merely probing differentiation. Since we’re wired differently, perhaps we should have different corresponding set of rules? The way your microwave and your freezer both have separate manuals even though they are both electrical appliances.
Of course there’d be some basic common rules but…
Perhaps I haf totally crase?